November 8, 2012 at 7:31 am #1344
Hi guys I’m in my early 20′s, started my career and have short & long-term plans. My friends seem to think that I will never get married because of my career.
Most of my friends I grew up with are married and we’re the same age.
I feel one should be financially secure with a good education before getting married.
My friends differ…”sigh”November 8, 2012 at 8:36 am #1345
Jason you sound mature and responsible. I hate being pessimistic, but I wonder how many of those friends who married so young will still be married in 10 years time. It’s almost as if they need everybody else to do the same so that they can justify their decision? Perhaps they feel somewhat threatened by someone bucking the trend. Work towards your goals and dreams, the right person for you will come along when you open yourself up for it. I only got married at 34 and I’m not sorry, because that gave me time and opportunity to travel and to sort out who I am and what I want in life.November 8, 2012 at 9:18 am #1347
Seems like a lot of us 20 somethings are going through this.
I say take your time and get married when you’re ready for it. Our paths and journeys are different, don’t compare yours to others. Do you!November 8, 2012 at 10:02 am #1349
Thank you for your comments, it came in handy.
Maria, I agree with you 100% one shouldn’t follow the trend because of the circle of friends. (Close friends, in my case). Traveling is one thing I still want to do.
Gina, I say we live our lives (Responsibly) I mean we still growing and getting to know ourselves.
JNovember 9, 2012 at 10:51 am #1375
Hi Jason. Please don’t feel pressurized into getting married, when the time is right, you will know. My daughter did all her traveling and got married in her 30′s. Life is so involved these days, and one needs to try and live life to the full, without ‘side issues’. Remember that other people can’t live your life for you, and that you are the one responsible for seeing that you live a good, worthwhile life. Good luck.November 9, 2012 at 11:05 am #1378
Hi Jason, dont rush into marriage, enjoy your life, travel, buy a house, car and have everything of your own. I got married young and i do not regret it at all. But dont do somthing because all your friends are doing it. Its ok to have a long term relationship but also your partner needs to understand that you have goals that you want to achieve and would only like to get married afterwards. Marriage is really awesome if you are with the right person for the right reasons. Dont stress about your friends getting married its a phase like when you are 16 everyone is having 16th parties and then when you are 21 everyone is having their 21st eventually after 23/24 everyone is getting married and shortly after everyone is having kids. But thats how life is and you have a choice to live it differently. Make the most of it. Goodluck for your future and im glad that you have your mind on the right track.November 10, 2012 at 11:26 am #1403
Hi Jason – There’s plenty of time to get married later, when YOU are ready. There’s a lot to be said for being a slightly older parent. My husband was 34 when our oldest son was born, and I found he was very patient and caring. He didn’t have anything to prove to the world outside still. Stick to your own road, that will be best.November 20, 2012 at 2:09 pm #1499
Stick to your own decisions Jayson. You are still very young and need to enjoy life even more. When the time is right you will know trust me, nobody has a right to put preassure on you and to tell you when to gey married. I was 28 when I got married, I was ready and I don’t regret anything.
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